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Allyship

As friends or family members, we are in a unique position to provide support and care for those we love. Learn how to be there for others and make your community safer.

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Supporting Others

As friends or family members, we are in a unique position to provide support and care for those we love. Being outside of their relationships, we have an important and valuable perspective. We can sometimes see behaviours and patterns in their relationships that they can't. We can sometimes see how relationships are affecting them – whether in a good or bad way. We can also be a safe place for them to turn to when they need it.

Just by being there, you are making a difference in someone's life.

If a friend shares with you that they are in an unhealthy relationship or that their partner is treating them poorly, it can feel overwhelming to know what to say and how best to support them.

Ways to Be an Ally

Be Aware

Pay attention to situations around you. Notice when someone might be uncomfortable or in need of help.

Speak Up

Use your voice to challenge harmful comments, jokes, or behaviors when it's safe to do so.

Offer Support

Let others know you're there for them. Sometimes just listening can make a big difference.

Create Safety

Help create environments where everyone feels respected and valued.

Learn & Grow

Continuously educate yourself about the experiences of others and how to be a better ally.

Bystander Intervention

When you witness a harmful situation, you have the power to make a difference. Here are safe ways to intervene:

Trust your instincts if something feels wrong
Create a distraction to diffuse a situation
Ask the person if they're okay or need help
Involve others to help safely intervene
Call for help if the situation is dangerous
Follow up with the person afterward

Remember: Your safety comes first. Never put yourself in danger—call for help if needed.

Supporting Someone Who's Experienced Harm

What to Say

  • "I believe you."
  • "This wasn't your fault."
  • "I'm here for you."
  • "What do you need right now?"
  • "Thank you for trusting me."

What Not to Say

  • Don't ask why they didn't leave or fight back
  • Don't blame them for what happened
  • Don't pressure them to report or take action
  • Don't share their story without permission
  • Don't make it about yourself

Take Action Today

Being an ally is a journey, not a destination. Start where you are, learn as you go, and remember that every action counts.